I’ve been so busy with teaching oils classes, I completely got behind on blogging after each week of Summer School assignments! So here’s Week 1 update. (Disclaimer: when you read “rich people” and “poor people”, please understand that that is only by definition of what our society views rich and poor. I DO have a poverty mind set, and that is what I am working to turn around. Take what I perceive from the books with a grain of salt. My opinion is not the only one, but I am consciously choosing to move towards a mindset of abundance.)
Week 1: Read Chapters 1 & 2 of You are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero and Part 1 of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
* Part 1 of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind focuses on your money blueprint. Everybody grows up hearing about money, seeing an exchange of money, and in turn formulates a subconscious opinion about money. Did your parents fight over money? Were you taught to always save your money? Were you taught money doesn’t grow on trees? Were you taught that money doesn’t last, so spend it while you can? Were you taught that money comes and goes and it’s unlimited if you choose for it to be? Whatever the case, it shapes our subconscious opinion about money and, in turn, determines whether we are destined to be rich or be poor. Why? Because our physical reality is simply a mirror of our inner reality. If we believe we aren’t worthy of making money, or that we’re not capable, or that we’re not qualified enough, or that our parents/family/friends/etc will think differently of us when we are rich, we simply will not be rich in the outer world because our inner reality tells us we can’t be. Rich people view the world as an opportunity, poor people view the world as a struggle.
Deep stuff, right? My parents divorced when I was 10, and most of my blueprint I recall is after the divorce. I remember being fairly poor. I remember my mom worked long, hard hours and frequently being told “Money doesn’t grow on trees. We have our basic necessities. The rest is a privilege.” Don’t get me wrong, we survived, our basic needs were met, and we were happy! But dang, did my subconscious soak that in! So much so, that I always tell the same things to my kids. Money is hard to earn, and anything outside of a roof over our heads, running water, electric, and full bellies is a privilege. Do I disagree with that statement? Not on a very basic, fundamental level. But, I do understand how it hinders me from having all of the desires in my heart! I’ve told myself for YEARS that I don’t NEED anything besides these basic necessities, so my subconscious tells me it’s selfish, unnecessary, and dirty to want more.
Our thoughts (which are usually fueled by our subconscious) lead to our feelings which lead to our actions which lead to our results. My thoughts have always told me I’m not worthy, capable, or qualified to create a financial freedom for myself and my family, so my actions have never been carried all the way out. I give up once I hit an obstacle or hear “no.” And that is exactly what I’m reprogramming. My thoughts. My subconscious. Because I AM worthy of whatever my heart desires. And my heart desires to be a successful wife, mom, and business woman. They all go hand in hand – when I feel value in one, I feel value in the others.
*Chapters 1 & 2 of You are a Badass at Making Money talk about allowing yourself to be who you want to be, how our beliefs (subconscious) control our results, and Universal Intelligence. We rarely give ourselves permission to listen to the desires of your hearts. But here’s the thing: the desires that linger in our hearts were put there for a reason. We each have unique gifts that we have to offer, and by denying ourselves our desires, we’re denying the rest of the world all we have to offer. By telling ourselves it’s selfish to want more money because there are others in the world that have far less than we do, we’re denying ourselves the opportunity to help those that desperately need us to follow our heart’s desires. Money in the hands of good people does more good. It makes sense. If we don’t like the way rich people do things, get rich and be the change you want to see. Complaining on the side lines isn’t going to do much good.
Jen refers to our subconscious as our Little Prince. “The subconscious mind is like a seven-year-old prince who suddenly becomes king when his father dies: He’s running the kingdom of your adult life based on information that he gathered, and processed, while doing somersaults and pulling down his pants in the front yard. Meaning, he didn’t really process any of it at all.” [You are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero, pages 32 & 33.] When we’re young, we have a very basic, primal way of understanding what’s happening around us. Mom and dad fought over a pair of shoes mom splurged on so money must equal fighting which is really scary which makes money bad and evil. As we grow up, that may translate to money will get me yelled at or fighting will ensue.
My subconscious beliefs control the words that fly out of my mouth. The words that come out of my mouth my subconscious believes. “I’m fat.” “I don’t have the money for that.” “I’m an idiot!” “My memory has gone down the tube.” Which then forms my thoughts which inspire my actions. (See a theme, here?) What comes out of your mouth, comes into your life. If you’re negative, negative will come. If you’re positive, positive will come. But that’s merely how you CHOOSE to view it. The same opportunity can be sitting right in front of you, the opportunity you’ve been waiting to come your way, but if you don’t view it in good light, you will pass it by.
The last part of Chapter 2 is about Universal Intelligence. Whether you pray everyday, believe in luck or coincidence, all of us have in some way bought into Universal Intelligence. Jen talks about how the invisible world creates the visible world – the more conscious you are about thinking positive, powerful thoughts, the more in tune you will be with Universal Intelligence, and subsequently, it will be easier for you to get rich. If you say “Dang, I’m poor. I can’t swing a vacation this year!” The Universe says “Ha, yep. Noted. No vacation this year.” Conversely, if you say “I AM starting up my business TODAY and I will not stop until I am surrounded by all the wealth I desire!” Universal Intelligence says “About time you get your mind in an abundance mindset!” and starts aligning the energy so you see the opportunity when it arises.
This makes so much sense to me. Breathe negativity and you won’t see anything as positive. I’ve consciously made the effort to speak kind words full of abundance and to stop thinking negative thoughts. And when I do find myself speaking and thinking unkind things, I reword to be abundant and positive.
Phew, talk about personal growth. My subconscious is full of ingrained negativity, but I’m so thankful for this opportunity to rewrite my truths. Summer school is kicking my butt!! Abundance, here I come!
Have a great weekend, everyone!